Have you ever had someone in your life that literally drains you emotionally and physically? Someone that really is the embodiment of negativity? The one that always spearheads the medieval ancient thoughts in your head? Well, you are not alone. These people are toxic and we always encounter them in our lives.
If you want to identify a toxic person in your life, go down this checklist:
- Those who spread negativity. This person is the epic symbol of negativity. He/She is negative and will not be happy till others are negative as well.
- Those who criticize you all the time. These people make Simon Cowell look like an angel.
- Those who waste your time. Be careful, they just drain your time with nothing fruitful – not even a meaningful relationship.
- Those who are jealous.
- Those who play victim. No matter how the situation could be handled, these people love to see themselves as victims of circumstances – and most likely blame others for their failures.
- Those who don’t care.
- Those who are self-centered.
- Those who keep disappointing you. Broken promises so often, it becomes a lifestyle.
Their toxicity is contagious.
It’s amazing how quickly things turn around when you remove toxic people from your life. – Robert Tew
Avoid them. Get rid of them from your life. It will be the hardest thing to do, but when you do it, you will see your life turn round.
Make the hard choice and remove them.
Remember this. Cutting people out of your life does not mean you hate them. It just means you respect and love yourself. Not everyone is meant to be in your life.
We’re all different. Each of us are a statistic probability. Every event happened exactly at the right moment, the right place, the right sequence which brings us to the unique point of existence. There is no one on earth that has the exact same experience, worldview, resources or capabilities. We are different. We need to accept this.
When we accept that each of us are different, then we realize that each of us write our own version of the story. It becomes clear that some people progress faster than others and some people slower. It is not because some are slower or some are faster, it is because each are charting their own journey.
So, we need to stop comparing ourselves to other. Instead, we need to compare ourself to who we were yesterday. We need to be better than yesterday. Only then, will be progress.
Failures and Mistakes are our teachers and masters.
When you fail, sit down and observe.
- What mistakes did you make?
- What mistakes did others do that caused the problem?
- How did you respond?
- How did others in the problem respond?
- How can the outcome be different?
- What can you change immediately?
- What can you change in the midterm?
- What can you change in the long term?
When others fail, go and talk to them.
- What mistakes did they make?
- How did they respond?
- How can their outcome be different?
- How can you improve to avoid making the same mistake?
- Could they have avoided the mistake or failure?
Always, take the time to observe the failures. Because failures offer us an opportunity to rise and be better. It gives us an opportunity to introspect, improvise and adapt. If we allow that moment to pass without contemplation, the idiot will always repeat his mistakes.